Saturday, November 19, 2011

An FYI and apology to readers

It's come to my attention that some readers, or at least one reader, has found some of the posts I've made regarding what my husband says as offensive and racist.

Obviously if I'm posting things that are shared between me and my husband, I'm bound to face some sort of criticism for what is said or even for the simple act of posting it at all.

However, just because I write an excerpt of a conversation does not mean that's the complete thought we have on the subject. So what's not seen is the constant lecturing my husband faces from me as a result of what has been said. Do I need to post those to show that my husband and I are NOT what some readers may see us as? Possibly, but that's not the point of the blog, which is supposed to be entertaining and comedic at best.

Yes, my husband is crude and obnoxious and seemingly abusive or racist, but I can tell you thats not at all what he is. The excerpts you see are a snippet of his at times terrible and sick sense of humour. What you're not reading though is my thoughts on a subject or even the fact that he realizes some of te stuff he has said is just downright wrong. Moreover, again, you're not seeing our discussions of why it's wrong in our opinions. And trust me when I say we live in the south and we both come from not the most open-minded background and families (some of those whom we choose to distance ourselves from simply bc of their offensive views)

In addition, being in the line of work I'm in, I witness stereotyping and racism almost daily on some level and I too am offended by that and make it a point to ignore it where necessary or discuss it if I'm able to with that person.

In a time where people find celebrities like Daniel Tosh to be entertaining, we should be able to separate joke from sincerity. He is able to make a living off of stereotyping and bashing groups of people and yet his ratings continue to soar. I'll admit my husband and I are a fan of his, but we are fans solely bc we CAN separate humor from sincerity. So we are able to recognize when things are said in jest. Considering, thiugh, that I am a white and straight female and my husband is a white and straight male, we have obviously not faced stereotyping or predjudice that others have and we are therefore not able to relate. But that does not mean that we should be classed in a group of people who are intolerable to others different from ourselves. It's simply not so.

Therefore, I apologize to that reader or even multiple readers who have become offended.

The apolgoy is directed at not only various races of people but also people who have gone through domestic abuse, weight issues, abortions, plastic surgery, poverty, or anything else that Jared has talked about that may offend a certain group. I may as well go ahead and say that includes myself, since I often am the butt of my husband's humor.

So with that, I will say that I will continue to post as I see fit and I will continue to censor certain things that my husband says, as I have done in the past, but will keep an open mind to the fact that my husband, and therefore I, will probably always offend someone in some way.

But I will ignore any labels or classifications that others decide to bestow upon us because what matters is that I know that my husband and I are good and decent people who share a few laughs together and decide to put it on the Internet.

Thank you,


  1. People need to separate jokes from hurtful words meant to hurt people. What one person finds offensive another will not and vice versa. I think Fag is the most disrespectful word out there but I realize others don't. If I come across it I turn the other way. If I feel strongly enough about something I confront that person face to face like a woman - not behind a computer screen.

  2. Anyone who follows your blog should know by now that Jared doesn't have the classiest humor...

  3. It's your blog. You post what you want to. If a reader is offended, that person can stop visiting your blog. simple as that.

  4. I don't get offended by anything on here and get a good chuckle out of most of the posts. However, I'm not easily offended, and even though I don't know the two of you as a couple, I know you separately, so that may affect my perception since I hear it in your voices.

    And as others have said, its your blog, and I think it's fairly obvious it's supposed to be humor and not serious opinions.

  5. I find your apology crude and insensitive.